7 ways to know who you are in a relationship with.

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1. Where did you meet and what were you both doing there?
Love is not found at the stripper joint, orgy, house parties etc unless you are T-pain, Usher or Drake, these are places where skin is of more relevance than mind.
You can't catch a penguin in the savannah, so your hunting ground talks a lot about your partners comfort zone. The exception is if it were his/her first time.

2. How did he approach you.
There's the romeo-in-love approach, chasing her from the shadows, love notes, trespassing on private property , and almost getting killed or actually dying in the process, this is the ideal, but I choose the less ideal of a witty but yet polite pickup line. Brave with a ting of cockiness served with a little coy. Disrespectful approach connotes a long standing abusive nature to the opposite sex.

3. How soon before he asked you out
Call me old school but I don't believe in love at first sight, crush or lust at first sight I totally agree, but I believe it is very arguable for someone to fall deep in love based on looks or a week long conversation. An honest am falling for you (after 2weeks of non stop communication) and life as an acquaintance with you is great, but I would love us to take it to the next level. This is in no way supporting hard to get psycho's, am just say don't crash-land break your fall gradually, learn and enjoy every step of the way.

4. What are his dreams, principles and philosophies?
Love is a totally intrinsic process, dealing majorly with the mind and to a lesser extent with the body. An individuals outlook on other strata of their lives affect their love life, its an all or none principle, these include your partners relationship with God(true love exists in religion, in christaindom its called the agape love) remember every seed bearing after its own kind,  the way your partner treats his family(remember the eventual goal is to make a family of your own), core values. You need the know your partners driving force, could be Mr Cannabis.

5. How do you fit into his masterpiece?
Asides God, every partner should be the crowning glory of the others hard work, anything lesser makes you a statistic, just like the Rolls Royce Wraith he has or his yatch, or moroccan carpet, all these should come second. A partner is that missing piece that completes us, meaning if you are not at the end or close to the end of his ambitious list, then belt up for a bumpy ride. Ask yourself if you are ready to weather storms(finances, disabilities, family) with this stranger or your fine with a boat cruise till the day you die, both have their perks, just need to know what works for you.

6. Can you make each other happy?
Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well‑being characterized by positive or pleasant… emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.(wikipedia) if your partner can't make you smile whether or not there's something to smile about, then he/she isn't doing a good job in the happy zone.

7. Do you have similar interests?
This is somewhat irrelevant as a determinant of a good partner, is my partner willing to become a part of my interests is more appropriate, I think its a beautiful thing to learn from each other. The willingness to learn is key. Remember the only things we are certain about is the little we know.

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