Know me, don't ask me to tell you.

When two rhythms meet, at first they are uncoordinated, but over time become harmonious, this should be the norm but sometimes we find that both rhythms remain out of sync bringing about a cacophony, disturbing to those who are unfortunate to be connected to this event by whatever means.

To err is human, the quantum is what differentiates a misdemeanor from an atrocity, and both are based on the depth of the relationship shared by the parties involved. We say things we don’t mean apologize and then regret, and more often than not, our utterance does not evoke the response we such desire, instead it adds salt to injury. This might be as a result of a lack of due diligence on the culprit's part to decipher the right tone and timing to advance a complaint, observation or outright dismissal of an issue.

We do things innocently that ends up hurting others in ways we did not imagine, and its worse when it’s someone we claim to love or have loved, who has set the security threat of your relationship to the barest minimum, it’s like been sucker punched in the guts, it hurts the most. Sometimes it’s a covert deed that evolves into a volcanic catastrophe. 

What is common to all forms of hurt, verbal or physical is a lack of knowing. Para-scientist have theories about premonition and precognition, while some quarters of the population would agree that most humans have either of these psychic abilities, I prefer the much simpler form of clairvoyance, which is discernment.

Being able to discern, anticipate or know ones action or reaction is indication of paid attention on the part of either party, it connotes keen interest and commitment to the growth of the relationship, on the other hand, frequent requests about a particular subject matter, is indicative a stunted relationship, a lack of interest or negligence. This should not be confused with forgetfulness.

Knowing your partner is rewarding, reassuring, and bonds partners better. Who does not love a partner that gifts the right type of gift or cooks the right type of meal, or says the right words at the right time, the feeling is divine.

So I implore you to assess your relationship with this tool, how well does your partner know you? are there efforts to want to know you? This I have found to be a panacea in preventing hurt in all relationships.