Love as the blind 2

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One of the dubious advantages of being blind is that you’re absolved from the torment of left and right swiping, which is strictly based on appearance. Swiping dating apps clearly do not consider any other population than the seeing one. I believe a dating app for the blind would engender better connections and successful enduring relationships.  It would most likely entail a lot of listening, and divulgence of the pure contents of one’s soul. 

Our sight is a blessing and sometimes a curse at the same time, we invest so much money and time into appearances and little in character. Most of us would pay heavily for a day at the spa, saloon, nail studio, boutique, an Instagram filter, or a location with good lighting, but not for a self or character-building seminar, podcast, or book, not for counsel on how to treat others better, not to save a soul in need.

I have come to the realization that human nature is consistently varied. The colours of our characters are the same but the mixture is different. To fully understand the canvas of one's character, we would need to deploy all our senses. This can only be learned through personal development and experience but certainly not through assumptions or arbitrariness. We are red on some days and on other days blue, to identify and respond to these is not emotional intelligence but genius.

Ever wondered why for some people out of sight is out of mind? The answer is simple, they can’t connect through the other senses, and even when they see, they can't discern. They haven’t trained their minds to perceive love through their parochial vision.

Maybe it exists only in movies, but how beautiful would it be to cling on to a shirt, with the fading scent of a lover, yet reminiscent enough to evoke a near real experience, to me that’s just blissful.

We owe it to ourselves to see past appearances, illusions bewitch only our sense of sight. The other senses are more accurate, and secure. Especially in a time and age when looks are actually deceiving. 

So when you decide to "love", do it both as one who is blind and sighted. Acknowledge what you see, but give your other senses as much of a chance to have a say on the matter. Because if it feels like love, it sounds like love, it smells like love, it tastes like love, and it looks like love, she is definitely love.


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