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Hello, Mosth-loyals, I've been thinking a lot lately about the cost of attention, and through all my computations and permutations one recurring decimal has stood out, and that is the cost varies from person to person. What is attention? It is a state of mind comprised of time, interest, and communication. It is an all-or-none principle, without any of the three components it wouldn't work. When we give attention to a thing or person we imply that that object is the subject of our time. Time being qualified as personal and none personal, and in this context, it is a combination of both. The same can be said for interest, we consciously learn, unlearn and relearn more about this object, and finally, we communicate what we know, and have learned, back to this object for feedback and validation purposes. I call these the currency of attention and we all have it in 24-hour bills. The valuation of attention is individualistic. We overprice some and disregard others. For me, it depen...

One of the dubious advantages of being blind is that you’re absolved from the torment of left and right swiping, which is strictly based on appearance. Swiping dating apps clearly do not consider any other population than the seeing one. I believe a dating app for the blind would engender better connections and successful enduring relationships.  It would most likely entail a lot of listening, and divulgence of the pure contents of one’s soul.  Our sight is a blessing and sometimes a curse at the same time, we invest so much money and time into appearances and little in character. Most of us would pay heavily for a day at the spa, saloon, nail studio, boutique, an Instagram filter, or a location with good lighting, but not for a self or character-building seminar, podcast, or book, not for counsel on how to treat others better, not to save a soul in need. I have come to the realization that human nature is consistently varied. The colours of our characters are the same but the...

There I stood in front of my shelved wardrobe where I had my cosmetics with my eyes closed. I had just had a deep clean shower and now was the time to feed my skin some goodness. For some reason, I couldn’t place a finger on why I had my eyes closed and that led me to my next thrill of identifying my products by touch. I had to trust my other senses had been taking notes now that my eyes were unavailable for this mundane task. It was at this point that the content for this post hit me, like a ton of cash. What senses would be the most accurate to rely on as a blind man in love? Would it be my ears? Would it be my nose? My hands? What would beauty mean to me? Are all the things we adore in a partner a function of all our senses or just our eyes? While I haven’t had the rare privilege of interacting with a blind couple, I have come to the realization that beauty can be perceived and expressed by all our senses. As such I can also conclude that love can be perceived and expressed by all o...

"I'm not ready to say goodbye"- lyrics by Leah Nobel that resonates with most of us. Not being ready does not erode the inevitability of the need to pull the plug on something that has outlived its purpose or requires reevaluation or appraisal. People plan to be in relationships, fall in love, make matching sweaters and all the shenanigans that comes with being in love, but they never put plans in place for what happens when loves dies. If every wise man plans ahead of death by putting a will in place, I think it is also wise for lovers to discuss what a future break up would mean to both parties. And before I get those stink eyes, ask yourself, why do people sign prenuptial agreements before marriage and then make vows for together forever... your guess is as good as mine. I learn everyday about the impermanence of the world we live in and how as cells in our bodies die daily so do things such a feelings and emotions, which go unnoticed. Whatever part of our lives death ...

My friend Stanley is someone I look up to when it comes to issues of love and romance, he is very explicit with his emotions, sometimes I feel its too much, such effusive display of affection has yet been known to men like me. Once he is in love it exudes from every faucet of his body, eyes, mouth, hands, breath, its quite palpable. I often say to myself, will I ever achieve this, because as an introvert in transition, we take more time testing the waters than getting in. As admirable as his gestures may be, it always seems never to be enough as the inevitable breakup is always lurking in the shadows. This further worsening my precarious unromantic state of life. Are relationships rocket science? What requirements would be considered enough? because from where I stand its a really tall order. So, late last year, my living version of Romeo meets his Juliet at a wedding, I would like to down play the whole event as, it was the usual occurrence, but this was far from it, ...

The phrase 'let go of' has been demonized in several quarters as a negative occurrence that brings about sadness. So, the ordinary persons notion of the phrase, either in written or spoken form is perceived as a loss. But from personal and eye-witness experience I can authoritatively say that this isn't always the case. The trepidation of what happens next or what will happen when we let go keeps our hands occupied (tied) literally, for a long period of time. Let us use the analogy of weights to cite an example. Weight means different things to different people, to the fat lady- bad, to the muscle junkie- good, to the artisan- stress, but one thing is common to all, they all aim to let go of the weight at some point. Same with relationships, the weight of some relationships get us out of shape mentally and physically, while some bend us over and over labour us, others do us good by putting us in top form. Therefore, assess the relationships you have, be it a work...

I would like to start-off with a question, what do we love about machines? Could it be their efficiency, friendly user interface, safety regulation, or that it can be personalized to suit of particular needs, note, all this are within limits of manufacturers specifications. These qualities and more appeals to our sense of judgment whenever we decide to purchase a machine, be it a phone, laptop, or a car. How can we relate this to a person? A machine can be described as a part of human mind existing independently, after-all we make machine, and they function within the scope of the manufacturers' programing. Love could be intrinsic, or programed into an individual, "now let me love you, and I will love you until you learn to love yourself" the wise words from Neyo, who also understands that love can be taught. It is expressed and reciprocated based on individual preferences. So, the question here is how do we get another supermachine to function with our love framew...

1. Where did you meet and what were you both doing there? Love is not found at the stripper joint, orgy, house parties etc unless you are T-pain, Usher or Drake, these are places where skin is of more relevance than mind. You can't catch a penguin in the savannah, so your hunting ground talks a lot about your partners comfort zone. The exception is if it were his/her first time. 2. How did he approach you. There's the romeo-in-love approach, chasing her from the shadows, love notes, trespassing on private property , and almost getting killed or actually dying in the process, this is the ideal, but I choose the less ideal of a witty but yet polite pickup line. Brave with a ting of cockiness served with a little coy. Disrespectful approach connotes a long standing abusive nature to the opposite sex. 3. How soon before he asked you out Call me old school but I don't believe in love at first sight, crush or lust at first sight I totally agree, but I believe it is ver...

We will be commencing this discussion with what security is: security in this context is a feeling of safety, therefore insecurity is a lack of safety. Insecurity in relationships comes when you are living from fear rather than intent. Instead of the positive decision to have a happy stable relationship you are seeking to avoid an outcome you do not like. It may be the fear that she is cheating, the fear that you are not good enough for her or any other fear. The key is that fear dominates. Happy successful relationships come about when people are operating with intent. They create the circumstances they want in life rather than avoiding those they do not like. Here is a simple analogy to further explain this, a new mother can be very anxious and insecure about her babies welfare. Now in an event she has to travel without her baby for a very important business meeting, in order not to allow her fears dissuade her, she puts-up safety measures for her baby and this would include...

It is no news that music is an integral factor of love, merely walking in on a RnB song presses the question 'where is cupid?'.  Form  Greek  art angels are sometimes  portrayed  to play the harp - hmm. Just as there are peculiar clothings for certain occasions and seasons, so are there music. The ability to discern what type of music is suitable for an occasion is not innate, rather it's a skill acquired over time, and when this skill is in its full maturity, love can play to its tune. So, we start off by classifying the various types of music we have into two distinct groups; Stimulatory and Inhibitory music. Stimulatory music ; alternative, pop, rock, dance, electronic, hip-hop/rap, reggae. Inhibitory music ; RnB&soul, soft rock, blues, classical, jazz, reggae. basically, this tells you the effect of these genre of music on our limbic system, which is the seat of our emotions. Next we would be looking at qualities of a good song. Lyr...

Many at-times most of us tend to translate our omnivore eating habit into our relationships, what do i mean by this you might ask, well its quite simple, define the terms of your relationship, when this is not adequately done  the error of conflicting interests can be averted. Hence one would not demand more or less than what that relationship can offer, at the given time. I am going to make this a two part topic the first would entail defining commonly misused terms in relationships while the second talks about he types of relationships proper. A boyfriend is a regular male companion in a romantic and/or sexual relationship. This is normally a short-term committed relationship, where other titles (e.g. husband, partner) are more commonly used for long-term committed relationships. A boyfriend can also be called an admirer, beau, suitor and sweetheart A girlfriend is a female friend, possibly specifying a female partner with whom one is romantically or sexually involved Th...

REDWINE This seems to be on the list of all things good, that is why it was probably shared on the last supper.Anyway redwine contains reservatrol which is an antioxidant that aids better blood flow before and after intercourse. VANILLA if you do not like vanilla  jump-off  a bridge join the army and  redeploy  to  Iraq  or other vanilla  flavored  foods have been shown to raise sexual appetite. WATERMELON is not just know for its size as a fruit but also of or its big addition to increasing libido, it contains a phytonutrient known as citrulline which increases the amount of nitric oxide in the body here by relaxing blood vessel and increasing circulation. ALMONDS Through antiquity, almonds were regarded as fertility symbols. The aroma of almond supposedly arouses passion in females -- or so thought the poets and scribes. The scientists say that almonds provide high doses of vitamin E, magnesium and even fiber. Therefore, there ...

This has got to be by far the most interesting read i have had in a while. I sure hope it is worthy our while. 1. Binge-watch an entire season of a TV show.  This sounds intimidating, but you can do it. Believe in yourselves and each other, and finally catch up on that show that makes you yell, "NO SPOILERS, WE'RE STILL PLANNING ON WATCHING IT!" every time it gets brought up at a party. 2. Have a board game night.  I know what you're thinking: "Board games? More like  bored  games!" And you're absolutely right. No one likes board games but beggars can't be choosers. Hold a board game Olympics and compete for chores, the right to choose your next take-out meal, or sexual favors (or all three). And even if you hate board games, you've got to love trash talking. 3. Do a giant puzzle.  Searching for puzzle pieces and figuring out where they fit might be about as fun as cleaning your room, but bonds are formed over them. If ...

Hey Mosth loyals! so i've been doing some research and i've found out that we all need road maps and not necessarily rules to a good relationship. So here is a list of ten commandments to a successful relationship: 1. You should never talk about your flaws or personal         deficiency at the beginning of the new relationship.       Take it one step at a time and let things role out the     way they should. 2. Do not depend entirely upon one another for the           satisfaction of every emotional need. Maintain           interests and activities outside that romantic           relationship, even after marriage. 3. Never let selfishness get in the way of a good           relationship. Most girls are blinded by the           orientation that the guy does all the money spending...

Things to avoid to attain a healthier skin varies but here are some listed below: 1. Dairy: Certainly, not everyone will get fat after     eating a piece of cheese, but there is a confirmed link     between consuming dairy and acne. In fact, a number of     clinical studies show that for many people, if you keep     including dairy in your diet, no amount of acne-fighting     product will help. 2.Sugar: Study shows that foods with a high level of the    sweet stuff and carbs can promote acne. Just another    reason to opt for a diet low in carbs and high in healthy    fats. 3.Food sensitivities: Just like dairy and sugar, gluten,    caffeine, fatty foods, processed foods and eggs are    commonly associated with acne—if you have a food allergy.    But it’s important to remember that food allergies are    individualized and can vary greatly from person...

Good-day Mosth loyals, here are some fashion add-ons for today's man. Men pay attention, ladies take note. The fashion circles of men and women keeps rolling and today it has become a part of who we are (identity) and also our lifestyle . Men fashion in particular is increasingly growing fast from corporate to casual wear. The accessories are men fashion plus one, to keep them smarter, good looking and sexy for the ladies and today I’m going to talk about your accessories, From simple to classy one major accessories of today is the 'glasses' or if you prefer 'shades' for protecting the eyes from the sun rays, to a fashion necessity, even Clark Kent digs them. These days a well dressed man without his glasses is considered incomplete, ladies love to see a man wearing glasses, for they consider him to be sexy and bold, but be sure to know Not all glasses fit,because shapes of the heads differ or the structure of the face always gets in the way. If u can’t find...