On a trip last year I got engaged in a discussion about identity and the sense of belonging. My discussant, a young medical student of Indian descent. Born in the UK, she confessed to feeling perpetually out of place. She shared with me that, during several visits to India, she experienced a sense of belonging she'd never found in her birth country. I questioned her to understand the root of this disconnect: Was it a race issue? Culture? Religion? Morality? What was it? I usually have a pet peeve for privileged people and their proclivity for bogus humility and modesty. Occasionally quick to sling the hackneyed ‘all these privileges don’t matter, I’d rather have the short end of the stick’ response. But something about her disparagement felt genuine. She went on to tell me about how differently she was made to feel as a child. She told me about her largely Indian settlement on the outskirts of London, which was her bastion. She utilised many words to express how outcast she felt. T...
When is he gonna ask me out? Its been over a year and she’s still acting like we are just friends, I need to know if he loves me or not? These questions are not strange to anyone who has attempted to be in a romantic relationship. They play on a loop in our minds, we go to bed with them and wake up with them, they boggle our minds till the point of mental exasperation. So why has he/she not said the 8 lettered, 3 words, 1 phrase sentence? I have come to understand that we love as humans at different rates. For some its love at first sight, for others, its love while walking out the door, but one thing that’s constant is that when love is ripe it’s the most beautiful thing ever. What I aim to achieve with this write up is to turn our minds to those glaring reasons that stare us right in the face as to why we may not have gotten the assurance we need from a seemingly good relationship. Love threshold The functional unit of love is affection or trust depending on w...
Whenever the idea of an outdoor activity is brought forward, it polarizes a lot of people, with majority falling on the against side. However the reason for this is not far fetched. Environmental pollution, insecurity, harsh climate, bad roads, traffic jams, poor social amenities and above all the cost of having a good time, to mention a few. So instead, folks would rather stay home and watch cable TV, continue the third season of a never ending series, and when they brave to go out, it is still a home away from home idea - the cinemas. Anyway am here today to change your mindset about outdoor fun.We are going to start with something closer to home; 1. The garden - A garden is more than a place too practice your horticultural skills it is a piece off nature living in your backyard. You can turn your garden into a five star resort by adding a little furniture in it, and if you are more affluent you can throw in a gazebo with a Jacuzzi or a pool table. 2. Walking the dog - This...
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